How to Make Peace with Failure!!!
Failure, it is inevitable!!!. Every person on this planet would have experienced this. We fail in business, we fail in exams, sometimes in relationships, and even in life but that is perfectly fine. Everyone fails, that is part and parcel of life but how to deal with the failure is the most important question and test of your endurance. So, how exactly you can cope with the failure?
Failure is inevitable: As I already mentioned, failure is bound to happen. You are not the only one who has failed or is failing. There are millions of people out there who have failed. Every human being has to experience the taste of failure in his journey, it is the unwritten law of nature, unwritten law of life!!!. There is no one in the world who could teach you the same thing which you yourself would learn from your past mistakes.
You don’t have to worry much about it, rather, consider it as a learning curve for your growth. Remember if not this time, there’s always the next time.
“The Greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.” — Nelson Mandela
As yourself: How did I land up in this situation? What should I do in the future to mitigate such kinds of failures? You definitely know the answer to this!!!
Forgive Yourself: C’mon, you are not GOD, are you? Don’t be hard on yourself. If you have failed, made mistakes, took impulsive decisions, or even made poor choices, that is totally fine. Mistakes happen!!!. However, you should dwell on the fact that you made the mistake and have failed. Moan a little, Cry your eyes out, Burst with anger, Shout out loudly but do not get stuck in that situation. Those are not just futile attempts, instead, intellectual growth. Forgive yourself but do not Forget!!!.
Forgiveness is paramount in this journey. One can’t move on and grow without forgiving. It would not only help you progress in your life but it would also assist you in your personal and mental growth.
As yourself: How terrible was this blunder? Do I not deserve to be forgiven? Shall I still hang around the failure which I didn’t expect in the first place and want to forget about?
Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it. Your mentality will make or break you, regardless of your situation.
Learn from your mistakes: Mistakes are OK, what is not OK is not gaining anything from it. Make mistakes, learn from them, adapt to them, embrace your failure (well, this is not that easy and hard to do than said, but it is also not impossible), and move on. If you do a mistake and do not learn anything, it is as good as you have not earned a penny doing a hell lot of work. The life in front of you is far more important than the life which has already left you and is in the past. That you can’t change but you can definitely understand, take advantage of the mistake you have made, acknowledge it, and learn a lot from it.
Personal experience and personal sufferings are the greatest literature — Bhagyashree Khakal
Do not ever blame anyone for the failures. Nobody, literally no one can understand and can share the feeling of your failure. It is YOU who has to learn and grow from your failure and mistake. If you keep blaming others, how on earth will you grow? When you blame others, you give up your power to GROW. It is you and only you who is responsible, for your mistakes, failure, and growth…..
Ask Yourself: What did I learn from this failure which would help me not to repeat the same mistake? Am I following the correct path this time? What should I change in myself?
Keep Trying and Build your character: When life throws you a curveball, it tests your resilience and strength of character. Knowing that whatever happens you can pick yourself up and dust off the rust, builds confidence and a positive attitude. No matter how hard things get, you are going to get through them. The knowledge that you are building is stronger than ever!!!
“Although there may be a tragedy in your life, there’s always a possibility to triumph. It doesn’t matter who you are, where you come from. The ability to triumph begins with you. Always.” — Achievement.org
This is not only gratifying phase of your life but also is making you 100 times more confident, empathetic, kind, and attractive to yourself and those around you.
Do not ever fear failure. The greatest Failure is your greatest teacher. We do not grow when things are easy, we grow when we face challenges. Accept this reality.
Ask Yourself: How did this failure help me to boost my persona and how much am I accountable for it and how far I can take this ahead?
Failures are Fine, Mistakes are Fine, and Bad Decisions are Fine too, but what is not OK is Doing Nothing and Doing the Same Thing Again!!!
Maintain your integrity and stay motivated. Keep in mind that as you have passed this roller coaster ride successfully, maintain the same or even better perspective and pace as you have and tackle the failures
Kept in mind to do not repeat the same mistake and should not experience the same failure. Unless and until you won’t make that shift, nothing is going to change. After all, success only comes to those who fail, work on it, make and take learnings and if not, it wasn’t worth it anyway!
Be Positive, Patient, and Persistent.
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